Last week we had gone over identifying your weaknesses. I showed you how small changes are what you are looking for and that you need to incorporate your weaknesses where your strengths are. Remember the take home message – it takes baby steps. Small baby steps will lead to the change you are wanting. This is also very vital to this weeks lesson – self-care and entertainment.
Hey you! Yeah, you. How often are you on your phone? Now be honest…probably quite a bit. Perusing Facebook, scrolling through Pinterest, playing a game – all of those take up precious minutes. Now by no means am I immune to this and have found myself an hour later wondering where the time went. It is easy to do but we have the ability to control it.
‘Oh my gosh Amanda! Can we please stop with all this personal responsibility talk. I’m not ready to adult today.”
Hahahaha too bad. You’re gonna adult today but once you get the hand of it by scheduling out your weaknesses and strengths, you’ll realize you have time to not be an adult too. Do you remember this from last week?
What do you notice about it? “Yeah, you’re so busy.” Yeah, kind of, but do you notice that I have included some self-care and entertainment in there? No? Look again. See that area that says ‘WORKOUT’? That is a self-care item. Want to see another one? See the “MOMMY&DADDY TIME”? That’s entertainment. Awww yeah *wink, wink*.
That is the crazy part about self-care and entertainment. It doesn’t take much to schedule it but let me get back to phone thing for a minute. I do the majority of my phone time during NAPTIME/FREETIME and BLOG time. That doesn’t mean I don’t pick it up during the day and do things, I am just more conscious about it. You want to be successful at time management? Be conscious of where your time is going. It is the easiest adulting thing you can do.
But I don’t have time for all of this self-care, weaknesses, blah blah blah blah blah. Yes you do. Yes. You. Do.
If you are still struggling at this point, there may be things you need to cut out entirely or definitely cut out of your life…for now. Find what those are because ladies, gentlemen, moms, dads…you cannot take care of others if you haven’t taken care of yourself first!
So here’s some tips:
- Schedule self-care in small increments every day or in bigger evolutions every week to every other week. Nails, massage, etc. Self-care can be as simple as reading a book in the bathtub with a nice cup of tea but only you can define what self-care is for you. Once you’ve defined it, start implementing it…NOW, not next Monday!
- Entertainment – once again, small doses or a longer dose once a week. For example, our weekends are pretty jam packed with family stuff. I dedicate myself to that on the weekends but schedule in a down portion in the evenings. This is good for the kids too. Also every weeknight isn’t an entertainment night either. Some of those MOMMY&DADDY TIME are us talking about things going on at work, with school, how we can improve our relationship, etc.
- Don’t be afraid to say ‘no’ to something or someone.
- Delegate! Now some might get up in arms about this but stick with me – yes I know your husband/father of your children is an adult who you shouldn’t ask for help when it comes to anything within the home and children realm but think of it this way – the home is your place of work. Would you know what to do if you went into your husband’s place of work and sat down? You’d have an idea but no clear way on how to do the job. This goes for any house where someone has taken on the role of homemaker/caretaker/whatever you want to call it even if both parties work. So do not be afraid to delegate.
- Give yourself a break. If it isn’t working, change something about your routine.
I hope this gives you an idea of how all of these combined can help make an easy going routine. Within the next few weeks, I’m going to start getting into the nitty gritty of time management and setting boundaries. But for now, go take care of yourself, play a game, and make a note in your mind that you are ready to change to get some more things done.
Do you schedule self-care and entertainment on a regular basis? If not, why?